I was asked today for my opinion on a parenting topic which gave rise to me thinking further about “rules” and how we apply them. My answer to the question was that we’re not always able to apply a general rule across all circumstances (particularly in child-rearing). There are always extra-circumstantial situations that require revision.
One of the earliest things people mentioned to me in order to be a“good” parent is to be consistent. Yes – I can see this – and understand it, but find it hard to apply. But life is not consistent. Situations are all different, as are people. So, how does one rule fit all?
That said, I do believe it’s possible to have an overall life philosophy that we can keep consistent – but only if this philosophy is not based on rules (i.e. should, have to and must). Rules only make it hard.
If you’ve done any work with me , you’ll know my philosophy culminates with ‘love and compassion’. This philosophy merely reflects a state of being… not adding more TO DOs on a list.
What’s YOUR life philosophy? And how will it change your life?
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