Over the years I’ve slowly watched the TV series ‘Parenthood’, which is fairly intense, yet with interesting people dynamics. Max, the boy with Aspergers Syndrome, has played a challenging and challenged role in the family, but from whom we can learn a lot.
In the latest series he (finally) starts exploring relationships and love, which for many of us is a struggle, but for someone with Aspergers even more so! For the first time he fancies a girl at school and in his calculating way, decides on a scale of affection with her. He establishes where he falls on her scale for affection, which is quite low, but takes it in his stride and logically states that his ranking can (and must) go ‘up’. That’s the way scales work. After doing everything in his power to increase his ranking on her affection level, his romantic feelings unfortunately aren’t returned. He then feels frustrated by the disappointment in his ranking system which has let him down.
The lesson he learns (through the patient explanation of his father) is that sometimes life and relationships don’t follow a linear process, we just have to throw ourselves ‘into the ring’ and see how people react. We can then play it by ear.
Life, I think, is the same.
Are you throwing yourself into the ring of life and love? Or are you skirting round the edges waiting for the illusive linear process to show you the way? You may be waiting for a long while.
Just evaluate, jump and trust.